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The vacation feeling
Posted 05-09-2010 at 08:09 PM by Erudite
This weekend I flew with one of my sisters to WA to see a play/musical that was written and composed by two other sisters (I have 5 sisters). I did almost absolutely nothing for 3 whole days. I didn't really enjoy myself, because I don't like doing absolutely nothing and frankly, I missed my DH, but the play was fantastic, amazing, powerful, marvelous, so that made it worth it. I enjoy my sisters but found myself with very little to say...they live in a very different world than I do as two of them are not married. I did like the feeling of being constantly celestial...and by that I mean the requirement that I am perfectly gracious and kind in all things. And I did read a good book (Stones into Schools) and that was nice too since it is rare for me to have so much reading time.
But, as always happens, getting home is a bit of a let down (after thoroughly kissing my DH of course). The kids are happier in front of the TV rather than basking in my presence and the laundry isn't quite done and no one thought to fix me a Mother's day dinner. (I finally suggested pancakes...) My good DH bought me the stuff to put a small water feature in my front flower bed, which is really going to be nice and he is thoughtful to have come up with it and purchased all the stuff, but I look around at all the other half done projects around here and just sigh. I would have preferred the gift of a completed project.
I'm feeling like I do very little of value. Stones into Schools made me want to do something more with my life. Seeing the beautiful play my sisters wrote, composed, directed, and produced made me so happy and proud of them, but a little dissatisfied with how little I seem to be able to do. My parents were there too and my 70 yo Dad is working on losing weight and he would go on 3 walks a day! I think that's so marvelous for him, and would like to do that for me, but my health can be so iffy that 3 walks a day would be too much. Ugh.
I guess the pancakes put me in a whiney mood. I just wanted to hold on to the vacation feeling and be special for a day, you know? but my family are either in front of the TV or playing a game that I don't know how to play and have never cared to learn...so here on Mother's day after being gone for the last 3 days, I'm sitting in my office alone typing in a blog on Body n Spirit, because I couldn't find anything to watch on netflix. Do you feel bad for me yet?
what a whiner.
But, as always happens, getting home is a bit of a let down (after thoroughly kissing my DH of course). The kids are happier in front of the TV rather than basking in my presence and the laundry isn't quite done and no one thought to fix me a Mother's day dinner. (I finally suggested pancakes...) My good DH bought me the stuff to put a small water feature in my front flower bed, which is really going to be nice and he is thoughtful to have come up with it and purchased all the stuff, but I look around at all the other half done projects around here and just sigh. I would have preferred the gift of a completed project.
I'm feeling like I do very little of value. Stones into Schools made me want to do something more with my life. Seeing the beautiful play my sisters wrote, composed, directed, and produced made me so happy and proud of them, but a little dissatisfied with how little I seem to be able to do. My parents were there too and my 70 yo Dad is working on losing weight and he would go on 3 walks a day! I think that's so marvelous for him, and would like to do that for me, but my health can be so iffy that 3 walks a day would be too much. Ugh.
I guess the pancakes put me in a whiney mood. I just wanted to hold on to the vacation feeling and be special for a day, you know? but my family are either in front of the TV or playing a game that I don't know how to play and have never cared to learn...so here on Mother's day after being gone for the last 3 days, I'm sitting in my office alone typing in a blog on Body n Spirit, because I couldn't find anything to watch on netflix. Do you feel bad for me yet?
what a whiner.
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I could go do the dishes but I'm fairly sure that would complete the spirit of martydom I'm feeling right now. Told ya...whiney.Posted 05-09-2010 at 08:32 PM by Erudite
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You know, it took my mother explaining to me over and over and over again when I was a brand new babysitter that parents don't want to come home to a messy home after being gone on a date all night.
Unfortunately I've thought my husband and kids should know this, too. Husband's philosophy is: It's exactly the way you left it. Tis' true. Many times I've returned home from trips with dirty dishes still in the sink, dirty clothes sprawled out all over the floor, etc. Disappointing, yes, but not as disappointing as coming home to children in the ER or completely neglected.
I don't know exactly what I'm saying other than I feel your pain. Especially when it comes to Mother's Day - I actually have anxiety on Mother's Day as it's not a pleasant day for me to look forward to due to how my husband and kids treat me. But then again, Mother's day isn't about me, is it? It's about all the other women that I celebrate in my life. When I focus on them I do feel much better.
Sorry, this probably wasn't very sensitive...nor helpful.Posted 05-13-2010 at 06:02 PM by 5ft Diva - BTW, I really do know that your blog wasn't about Mother's Day. I just said on here what I would have said to you on the phone....just pretend that this blog goes on for another two hours filled with enlightening and uplifting conversation.Posted 05-13-2010 at 09:30 PM by 5ft Diva
- "I feel your pain" is about all I needed. I need to have a talk with my DH about this. He knows the whole gift thing is a big thing for me, but he needs the reminder, I guess. My VTer said that she buys fun stuff for herself when she wants to and then puts it in a drawer and when it is gift time, her DH goes to the drawer and pulls out some of the stuff. I thought that was a wonderful thing and started a drawer for me. It has 3 books in it...which I suppose I'll get for my birthday after I remind my DH that the drawer exists and is actually stocked. I think it'll be fun to get stuff that I actually WANT as opposed to whatever he happened to come across that he thought I'd like because I've always liked it in the past...nevermind the fact that "liked it in the past" generally means I already have what I need/want of the thing.
Ah well, we'll just keep loving these good men...they do kill the spiders and take out the garbage.Posted 05-13-2010 at 09:34 PM by Erudite - LOL at your 2nd posting. Heard and received and hopefully gave some uplifting and enlightening conversation. I didn't call you on this because it did feel like a subject we'd already hashed out...and that has more to do with feeling useful in life rather than receiving recognition for being a good Mom.Posted 05-13-2010 at 09:37 PM by Erudite
- I can completely relate, both to the coming home to a messy house and to not enjoying Mother's day. I just have to remind myself that my husband is a good man, even if he doesn't understand that all I really want is a break. I ended up being in charge of dinner for the entire clan since we're living with my in-laws and they sure as heck weren't going to plan anything. Frozen lasagna, green beans, and cheesecake worked just fine! My SIL brought most of the remainder of the meal. And, both she & I did most of the clean-up. So much for mothers being pampered on Mother's Day!Posted 05-13-2010 at 09:52 PM by natickgirl
- I SOOOO hear ya, NG! We should start a campaign...either do away with the day that most of us hate or step it up men!
Posted 05-14-2010 at 09:08 AM by Erudite - Although, I do like to honor my own mother...Posted 05-14-2010 at 09:10 AM by Erudite
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