Anxiety

**5ft Diva** · #1 12-16-2009, 01:57 PM

I don't know what category to post this under so it's going here. I am in the midst of a mild anxiety attack. It was triggered by getting embarrassed in front of other people by someone that I trusted. I keep telling myself that it's not a big deal, but my heart won't stop racing and I keep having a hard time breathing and I want to eat everything in sight. This is a very bad combination. Anyway, just needing to talk it out so I can calm down.

natickgirl · #2 12-17-2009, 12:31 PM

So sorry that happened to you! =-( I hope you were able to calm down and shrug it off.

Meticulous madness · #3 12-17-2009, 07:27 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you experienced that as well! I've had similar situations and the accompanying physical reactions. Not fun! Can't be good for your health, either.

Are things better now?

Did you tell the person they'd embarrassed you? I only ask because I've noticed that sometimes honesty lets the feelings reach the surface and break free (even if it turns into a fight or temporary emotional crisis - it gets better afterward and possibly allows you to voice your forgiveness).

Good luck!

bookworm · #4 12-18-2009, 08:46 AM

Oh, Diva that sucks! I hope it passed quickly for you. I HATE that...

**5ft Diva** · #5 12-26-2009, 06:18 PM

Yeah, once I started this thread and noticed that what I was feeling was anxiety I immediately went to the source and told them my frustrations. It felt good just to take back control. Every once in a while I forget that I'm in charge of how I feel...

Sometimes I'm so silly.

Erudite · #6 01-03-2010, 08:35 PM

Diva, I did the same. Just wanted you to know that I did call my MIL and she was totally gracious and apologetic about what she'd done to me (she'd called asked how I was and then essentially told me she didn't want to listen to me and told me all about her son who has recently moved away) and then I could tell she was making a real effort to listen to the chaos that has hit my life lately. I hope it helps to improve our relationship, because she's done that to me a lot over the years and I've never taken to the time to pray about what to do and then follow up on the prompting. Anyway, this seemed like the right place to follow up on our phone conversation about this.

Hope you don't mind.

**5ft Diva** · #7 01-05-2010, 03:53 PM

Not at all, so glad it went well. With each interaction we have with one another we either grow closer together or farther apart. There is no idling. So glad this was a growing moment for the two of you.

Meticulous madness · #8 01-05-2010, 03:58 PM

I love it when you can be honest with somebody, and they can handle the truth. If they apologize, even better! That sounds like a good experience, ER!

Was yours good, Diva? I liked what you said about moments like that moving people closer together, or farther apart. So true.

**5ft Diva** · #9 01-05-2010, 04:04 PM

Uh, my experience wasn't so sweet. The person basically said, well if you hadn't done _____ then I would not have had to embarrass you.

Really!? It is a choice....you can learn to be tactful. I'm not bitter about it, am I?

Erudite · #10 01-13-2010, 08:43 AM

Sorry to hear this, 5D! Does it help to say that its something we can all learn to do better...that is find a tactful way to help someone change? That's a toughie, no matter what, I think. Learning from the experience is a good way to attempt not to be bitter.

Erudite · #11 01-14-2010, 12:09 PM

Anxiety attack going on here!!! Help!

I'm involved in a HUGE problem having to do with our kids' school. Tonight we'll have to attend a meeting where we are very likely to come under attack from the leadership of the school; luckily we do have the support of a majority of teachers and good support from quite a number of the parents so we do not stand alone. But it's still 8 hours away and already my hands are shaking and I have this nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I am attempting to get to a peaceful feeling through deep breathing and prayer, but I am SCARED. My blog is all about how God HAS helped in this situation so I know we're on the right track, despite the number of (uninformed) nay sayers...

Pray for me today, sisters and friends. I am in need of your faith and support.

Does anyone have any good tips for me to overcome anxiety??

natickgirl · #12 01-14-2010, 03:58 PM

So sorry, E. Good luck! You'll do fine!

**5ft Diva** · #13 01-14-2010, 05:08 PM

I remember feeling this way about meeting w/ some oppositional Stake Leaders when I was doing something they asked me to do. When I told BS how I felt his response was to pretend I was talking to him. It really helped my nerves calm down - because I'm a visual person, you know.

Here's the formula I follow every time:

Face the fear (name it)
Share the fear
Make a plan

E, you know Heavenly Father didn't bring you this far to let you stand alone. He will be on your left and on your right. Call peace to you, it is yours to have....

Erudite · #14 01-14-2010, 05:25 PM

Thanks guys! I'll report back tomorrow.

Erudite · #15 01-15-2010, 04:35 PM

MAN! Don't you just sometimes to NEED to see the BIG picture or at least get a good solid look at the path you should take so that you can NOT trip over the stones and bump into other people and things will come out the way they should because you did what you were supposed to do?

The meeting went fine last night. Everyone was wonderfully civil. The plan, that I believe is heavensent, was presented and accepted....except that those who accepted it didn't admit any wrong, which is the whole reason a plan needed to be presented. Further, they didn't allow that other people besides themselves need to be part of the solution...when they've been at the heart of the PROBLEM. We were able to chat in the hall with many different people and many people are very concerned about this. Some are so concerned, they've given up hope of a good outcome.

Me? I have a plan in my head, but I'm still so wound up about it, that I can't tell if it is a good plan that God wants me to move forward with or if it is just me...ever the naive optimist....thinking I can rush in and save the day. Likely the latter, because I have those kinds of thoughts a lot. I'm in the "I hope, I hope, I hope" stage and have no where to go with these thoughts. So my anxiety is still here but I'm a'calling...Peace...peace, where are you...peace? I'll get there.

I hope that made sense to someone.

E