Get Over It

[5ft Diva]

Get Over It

Where did this phrase come from anyway and who's the idiot that coined it? If this phrase is used sincerely then I have no problem with it, but most of the time it's used because the person saying it is uncomfortable with the way we're feeling so they'd like us to get over it so they can go on living within their comfort zone. It is frustrating to me and insensitive and you don't even have to use those exact words per say. It's also in the tone of someone's voice who says something like, "Well, it's been two weeks, isn't that long enough?" I just look at some people and think, "Are you kidding me? Did you just say that out loud?" It's not like you can just wave a magic wand and undo the feelings in a second that took days, weeks or even months to create. Give me a break. That's all I have to say. Now, let me just say, my intention is not to attack anyone or any group in particular, I just grow weary of people's lives being inconvenienced when all they needed to do was just show a little compassion to help someone along who was struggling so that they could "get over it".

[natickgirl]

AMEN, sister! Way to tell 'em!

I also get annoyed when you finally have your emotions somewhat under control, so people think you ARE "over it", but you know that something could set you off again days, weeks, or even months from now. Some things you never really "get over", you just learn to incorporate the feelings into every day life, knowing you'll have bad days every now & then.

[mxmama]

Well, at the risk of starting some trouble.....

I just cant hold back....


I think and would bet that a MAN was the first to say it, and I'm pretty sure it wasn't to another man!




This is a joking tone

[5ft Diva]

I'm sure you're right, mx.

And, NG, you couldn't be more right. Luckily I'm married to a man who knows "the look" and says, "I thought you were over it, but can now see the error of my ways. Do you want Rocky Road or Burnt Almond Fudge?"

[Erudite]

LOL!

Way to go, BS!

[bookworm]

Well, I have used that statement with my kids, as in "Mom, he got a bigger cookie yesterday!!!" Well, get over it! I only use it with whining about trivial matters, though. (Like I've heard people say "suck it up!" same thing)

I think if someone has survived trauma, or is mourning, though, it is never our place to decide they should be "done" with it!

[PhillyGirl]

I totally, completely, 100% agree!

[Big_Sissy]

Originally Posted by 5ft Diva

I'm sure you're right, mx.

And, NG, you couldn't be more right. Luckily I'm married to a man who knows "the look" and says, "I thought you were over it, but can now see the error of my ways. Do you want Rocky Road or Burnt Almond Fudge?"

I have to admit -- I was a little worried that I might have been the topic of this thread, and maybe dropped a "get over it" that I didn't realize.

I've been cured of buying Chocolate Ice cream for many years now At least for this particular reason

[5ft Diva]

You're not the topic, BS. It was something I wanted to address after reading about reactions to women who have had traumatic experiences in their lives, such as losing children and having miscarriages. Sorry if you felt like you were the bulls eye.