I just need to talk....

[5ft Diva]

I just learned that the husband of a former co-worker of BS's was killed in a car accident. She is expecting their first child in April. I am in total shock. I just need to talk this out. I am on the verge of tears for this woman that I've never met. It's horrible. This is something that only happens to other people - and even then it's other people you don't know or have absolutely no connection to. For some reason this is hitting closer to home than I want it to and I'm not even sure why. You think you have your whole life planned out and then one day - something like this changes everything. I can't even begin to imagine. I think I'm just in shock and I'm trying to process through all of my feelings. I feel so badly for this woman. I wish this had never happened to her. I hope you don't mind that I'm rambling on and on. I just need to process I guess.

[natickgirl]

Wow. That is so sad! It is very unnerving when tragedy happens to people you are somehow associated with. It always reminds me how fragile life really is...that something could happen to any one of us at any time. Very sobering.

In this month's Ensign magazine, there is an excellent article about this exact topic, by someone who also lost her husband in a tragic accident. Maybe it will bring you & this poor young widow some solace.

[Dia Minha]

Diva, I can very much relate. I had a similiar experience just this morning. An in-laws brother, that I have met on several occasions, was arrested recently. It really touched home with me, because I thought that only happened to other people. You know bad people. Even though he seemed kind of weird, I never would have thought of him as making such terrible choices.

Losing a husband while raising young children is a very big fear to me. I can understand the feelings you are having. Feel free to talk it out and ramble. We don't mind at all.

[bookworm]

Oh, how awful. It's so hard to make sense of our feelings when things like this happen. I agree with Dia, write it out- talk it out. It's very surreal when things like this happen within our social view. So sad.

[natickgirl]

DH's friend from jr. high & high school was arrested a few years ago. We had just reconnected with him. It was very strange. DH had a feeling something was up, but it was still sad. I don't know whether I feel more sorry for the friend who made bad choices, or for his family.

I also have two close friends who have family members with debilitating personality-altering brain injuries sustained in car accidents. The lives of two beautiful, smart, talented young women were forever changed, and their families have to care for them for the rest of their lives. It hit really close to home for me. That could happen to one of my children.

I'm rambling. Sorry. It helps me process when I hear of such sad events. You can ramble, cry, blog, or whatever helps you process your thoughts & emotions.

[5ft Diva]

I really appreciate all that was said here today. It's helped a lot to read everything here. I woke up this morning still in shock but somehow able to deal w/ it. Last night every time my mind started thinking about it I would push it away and not even want to consider that it was true. I was hoping I would wake up and find it was a bad dream I'd had. I now know it's true and even though I'm sad I can accept it. NG, thanks for the article. I haven't read it yet, but will.

It's interesting, even now that I'm writing and have accepted that this really did happen to this woman, I find myself feeling angry for her. I want to cry. It isn't fair that she should go through this. I sure hope she has family and loved ones close by. I don't enjoy watching other people struggle in this life.

The accident was something that I KNOW could have been divinely intervened and so I find myself trying to feel comforted by the thought that it was his time to go. I just don't know. Even saying it makes my stomach churn. It's too early to think about stuff like that. I just hope this woman is okay.

Thanks again, guys. I love the feedback as it helps me understand this better.