Help, I'm stuck!

**5ft Diva** · #1 11-09-2007, 03:24 PM

Positive thinking and bringing good things into our lives is something we've talked a lot on here about. In regards to this, I'm at a place where I'm stuck. I think I understand the concept, but it's like I need to be pushed to the next level - where ever that is. What is it that you do to put more intention into what you sincerely want and desire? I'm not looking for anything specific, just what works for you.

Dia Minha · #2 11-09-2007, 04:00 PM

For me, first and foremost I have to know what it is that I want to accomplish. WW would call this your "Winning Outcome". There are several "Tools For Living" that can help you reach your "Winning Outcome". I think the one that works best for me when I am lacking in motivation is called "Motivating Strategy". Essentially I picture myself already where it is I want to be. This is a lot like meditation. I imagine every detail of what I will experience once I reach my goal. What I see, hear, wear, say, do. By doing this I am able to experience what it will be like and it gives me the desire to do whatever needs to be done, to get there.

Another "Tools For Living" that is very helpful is "Anchoring". This is when you choose a picture, word, gesture or an object and assign it to a particular feeling. When you need the extra little boost to help you along you can mentally bring back the picture, word, or touch the object you choose to bring back that feeling, whether it be strength, determination, success, or joy.

Dia

bookworm · #3 11-09-2007, 06:08 PM

Well said, Dia! I would only add that Deepak Chopra talks about releasing your attachment to the goal... For example: I lost my ipod a few weeks ago, and I love my ipod, so I tore the house apart looking for it. I had my kids call their friends who had been here to see if they remembered seeing it, I looked EVERYWHERE. Bear in mind here that I am the "finder of lost things" at our house- I can find anything. So I was freaking out when I couldn't find it for a couple of days. Finally, about the third day in, I emotionally let go and relaxed, and accepted that if it was still in the house, it would turn up eventually, and if it wasn't, then I would just have to save $$ to buy another. I let go of my attachment to the goal of finding the ipod. About two days later, I found it in a place I had already looked 4 times, but had missed it. I wasn't looking for it when I found it- but there it was!

So how does this apply? We set a goal, we visualize ourselves at that goal, we thank the Lord, the angels, the universe or whatever for granting us that goal, and then we let them take care of the details, but we have to do what we can to put it into motion. If I am intending to get out of debt, I can't keep using credit to pay for stuff. If I am intending to move, I've got to collect boxes, clean the walls, etc.

This is sometimes harder than it sounds. I have a very hard time letting go, because I am a bit of a control freak in my life. I have difficulty allowing that there are more ways for things to come about than what my limited mind can come up with. For instance, I can only "see" income coming through DH's job, but God has the whole universe at His disposal and He and His angels can see many other possibilities than I can see. So if I let go of the details, open myself up to God's will and in gratitude commit to the goal of financial freedom, it will come- probably in unexpected ways.

I don't know if this will help you, Diva, but know you aren't alone at feeling stuck. Good luck!

**5ft Diva** · #4 11-09-2007, 06:29 PM

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For instance, I can only "see" income coming through DH's job, but God has the whole universe at His disposal and He and His angels can see many other possibilities than I can see. So if I let go of the details, open myself up to God's will and in gratitude commit to the goal of financial freedom, it will come- probably in unexpected ways.

This is probably the hardest thing for me right now. I can feel that if I can just push through the "glass ceiling" things will open up for me in miraculous ways. Right now, because of my lack of faith (that I'm big time working on) I can see that I'm keeping the possibilities boxed in so that Heavenly Father isn't able to do what He does best for me. He can't do this for me because I won't give it to him. AAHHHHH! Well at least what I'm working for is going to be well worth the price I'm paying now to learn this lesson!!!

bookworm · #5 11-10-2007, 05:51 PM

Diva, one thing to remember is that sometimes EFFORT isn't what's required. It's submission. That is easier said than done when we create our own lives- how do we not TRY for what we want??? Well, we do try, to a certain degree. If you are struggling, though, something's not right. The flowers bloom without struggle- things done in nature are effortless. So are things we do when they are in harmony with God's will. That isn't to say some work isn't required, but just "trying hard" isn't necessarily what we need to do. The "glass ceiling" may just melt away once you stop pushing against it. Does that make sense? Patience is usually the key for me... just be patient and all things will come together for good.

And try not focusing too much attention on what you see as limitations. Try to focus your attention on another project until you are inspired to move in another direction. Read a new novel or something to distract your mind when you start worrying, stressing, wishing, and seeing lack of what you want. I sometimes feel like I need a project to keep my mind busy so I won't mentally try to force my will to happen at my desired speed.

Hope that makes sense and is helpful.

Dia Minha · #6 11-10-2007, 07:49 PM

Well, I don't know if it was a help to Diva, but it sure was for me. Thanks Bookworm.

Dia

bookworm · #7 11-10-2007, 08:27 PM

you're welcome! Sometimes putting thoughts like those into words helps me remember!

**5ft Diva** · #8 11-12-2007, 09:37 AM

Makes lots of sense. Thanks for your insight, I appreciate it so much! It's helping me to see things from the outside in - one of my favorite things to do. You're very wise!

Erudite · #9 11-12-2007, 10:52 AM

When I'm feeling "stuck" I call my friend and go "I AM STUCK!!!!!" She laughs at me because I get stuck a lot and she's always there to go "Now listen, you're not stuck, you just need to look at this in a different way." She's so smart because she's unstuck herself lots of times and always knows just the right thing to say to unstick me. She relies on the Spirit and her faith in amazing ways that make me want to be more like her. Her confidence in and communication with her Heavenly Father is my goal. Her foundation is in Christ and her ability to make use of the atonement is something that I am always working toward. She is truly awesome and has made herself worthy of all the blessings that come to her life. She is directing her life in a way that will bring those blessings that she needs, her family needs, and that her Heavenly Father knows are right for her.

And she needs to keep remembering that.

I love you, Diva!!!