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Originally Posted by amberpatomo You read my mind! I often refer to myself as Mother A.K.A Raving Lunatic 
Good thing is that recently I have gotten used to having 2 kids (2nd is 6 months). I am starting to set a pattern for each day that relieves a lot of stress.. I always say this to every new parent who asks for advice.... Structure, structure, structure. I look at 5diva and admire her ability to be such a great mom. I would like more children and hope to keep it all together like her.
I sometimes think that I can just skip on brushing teeth or reading a story or whatever. But then I remind myself that no matter how tired I am they will suffer more without the important stuff finished.
I try very hard to get my kids to bed by 7:30. So far so good. And they seem well rested. That has been a big reliever of stress because I have time to be with my husband.. (Oh, that's right, i'm married.. it's so easy to become roommates!) |
Oh, that first little comment made me laugh out loud! I'm A.K.A. phycho mom sometimes, yesterday being one of those times.
AP, let me put things into perspective for you. Christmas is still up at our house (my plans are to finally get it all taken down and put away on Saturday-my first chance to do so), we didn't eat dinner last night until 8:30, I yelled at my kids yesterday afternoon because I finally ran out of patience w/ them (which I really shouldn't have but I did) and I'm sitting here responding to your e-mail unshowered w/ my house all torn apart. So I guess to "have it all together" you just need to let yourself go. ;D
No really, I can completely understand what you're all talking about. My advice is to simply talk to other moms and have a reality check every once in a while.
The hardest part of my day is right after school - I think it's because my husband is working when the kids get home from school but he helps w/ the whole bedtime process. We have a little bit of family time right before bed so he's there to direct traffic which is so huge! Structure is good advice. Unfortunately, this is easier said than done. I think this will be a baby-step process for me. Hmmm...what do you think my first baby step should be? How about write down my kids' routines and post them up in the house so that they know what their expectations are for the day? Any I can never find time to do this so maybe I'll have to schedule some "me" time to get that done. The consequences (good or bad) are where I struggle, any suggestions?
thanks for letting me figure this all out.
Tina, I think you're doing a great job and you just need to keep it up. I know that's hard to hear because there's no quick fix but it's hard to juggle a family - especially at bedtime, and isn't Josh gone sometimes? That's a huge factor in how things go at our house!
Something that comes to mind though is something I learned from a book I've been reading. Yelling is an immature way to handle things, so if you're yelling as a parent then you need to grow up and learn to communicate. I've only read that far so I'm not to the part yet that tells you how to not do that anymore.
My question for you is, what are your triggers? What is going on or what are you feeling right when you start to feel like you're going to lose it? I think that if you figured out what they were then you'd know what needs to be done to avoid them all together. Hey, I'll have to try that myself! I'll let you know how it goes. Anyway, there's my 2 cents.
01-25-2007, 07:15 AM
Regaining Sanity 
