Other people's vibes

[5ft Diva]

How do you separate how others are feeling (meaning the vibe they give off) from how you feel about yourself or rather how you feel that person feels about you which sometimes affects how you feel about yourself? (that was a mouthful!) I've tried the "zipped up" method and it works, but I'd like something a little more substantial.

This may seem like a confusing question to most of you, but I believe there are a few of you who know what I mean.

[natickgirl]

I get what you're asking. I'm just not sure how to answer it. Some days I'm grounded enough and confident enough that I really don't care what others think of me, or what kind of "vibe" they're giving me. Other days, though, I feel weak & vulnerable, and let negative feelings get to me. I have to remember that it is not my place--or theirs--to judge. (You know, the whole "...in the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can't see" thing.)Maybe the other person is really struggling in her life, so she has to make other feel bad, too. Who knows.

I think what I need to remember is that Heavenly Father loves me & is aware of my weaknesses. If I try to keep in mind that Heavenly Father loves everyone else, too, and try remain cheerful & confident, I will be blessed to shut out or overcome those negative thougths & feelings towards others. Sometimes it helps me to remember that I am not going to be "friends" with everyone. There are people who I can be civil to, but won't necessarily develop any kind of meaningful relationship with, and that's OK. Not everyone needs to like me, or even understand me.

I know this is all MUCH easier said than done. I just have to keep reminding myself of these things. And, I just thought...I also need to be aware of the kind of "vibes" I'm sending out. Do people think I'm unfriendly, judgemental, or whatever because I'm having a bad day & seem really unapproachable? Hmmm. Yep. Probably guilty of that one.

Thanks for getting me thinking about this.

---------- Post added at 12:42 PM ---------- Previous post was at 12:41 PM ----------

BTW -- what is the zipped up method?

[Dia Minha]

Hehehe, I read this and it made me think about the anxiety I had before you came over to see my couch. It isn't like I expect everyone to love my couch as much as I do, but I dread that first, "Oh, it's nice. I wouldn't want it in my house, but for you its nice." I know it will bring up all those kinds of feelings.

For me it is just learning to love myself and being secure enough with myself that I can quit worrying about what others think of me and concentrate on lifting others up. It is something I struggle with on a daily basis, but, you, Diva help me so much. I know I can tell you my opinion on things, because you will tell me exactly how you feel about it as well. I don't have to worry about you feeling like you have to feel the same way as me or we can't be friends.

Anyways, I feel like I'm getting off topic again. So, the end.