Need Support

Dia Minha · #1 08-15-2007, 06:39 PM

Hey, Smed. As I failed yet another day trying to get back on plan I just wanted to touch base with you and see how you were doing. I really need to get back to meetings. Until I do I just wanted to touch base with someone who is following the same plan as me for support.

Thanks,

Dia

**5ft Diva** · #2 08-15-2007, 09:12 PM

Good luck, Dia, I know you can do it!!!

Dia Minha · #3 08-15-2007, 11:31 PM

Thanks for your support Diva. I guess I'm at a point right now, that I have never been in my weight loss journey. All the times I have struggled I have always believed I would overcome and reach my healthy weight. This is the first time that I just don't see it happening. If I don't believe it, then how am I going to acheive it?

At this point it isn't even the fact that I need to loose weight. I have been gaining faster then I ever have in my entire life. It is so scary to see the scale go higher and higher. I know the longer it takes to get it under control the harder it is going to be to repair the damage.

I just keep telling myself, baby steps, little tiny baby steps and you'll get there. Just keep floating. Just keep your head above water. I can't force the wave, however, I need to be able to stay above water until it comes. Then if and only if I am watching for it will I be able to catch it.

Dia

Dia Minha · #4 08-15-2007, 11:47 PM

Oh man I sound depressed. I am having a bad day. Just writing all that some how made me feel better. So, I just wanted to say that I am taking baby steps. They are tiny baby steps, but they are steps going forward none-the-less. I have worked out for three days in a row now for 30 minutes each. I have found a basic body workout on the WW website that tells me what to do, how many times to do it and for how long. There is a 12 week program that works a lot like the "from couch to 5k" program a lot of you are following. Except the outcome is not to run a 5k, but to tone and strengthen.

I'll post the link if anyone is interested. It is called "Buff Brides Fitness Challenge". It was designed specifically for brides to be to get fit before their wedding. I don't have a wedding in 12 weeks, but I do have Fubeca's work Christmas party around that time so I thought that would be a good motivator.

Here it is: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

It's the eating that is holding me back right now. So I'll keep a float by working out and hopefully I'll be able to catch the "In control of my eating" wave sooner rather than later.

Dia

**5ft Diva** · #5 08-16-2007, 10:15 AM

I was a little like that before some big changes in my life and now I'm paying for it. Way to be aware and on top of it. The only thing I like about the weight loss part is the self satisfaction that I'm more in control of myself rather than the other way around. Why does it have to be so hard though???? Well, get to work so you can answer the million dollar question.

Dia Minha · #6 08-16-2007, 03:40 PM

I can already answer the question. It is so hard because it is worth the work. Things that come easily are rarely treasured.

Dia

**5ft Diva** · #7 08-16-2007, 03:43 PM

You speak the truth.

smed · #8 08-16-2007, 10:07 PM

Hey Dia,

It's always so good to hear from you, OKEY the DRUM ROLL PLEASE! I have lost a total of 17 lbs. since July 1st. YES! you have to take it baby steps at a time. For me when I started I just had to take it one day at a time. When I got to all my points for that day and looked at what else I did and got done I thought to my self "that wasn't so bad, I can do this again." Every day I say it and now One and a half months I'm down 17 lbs. YEA HOOO

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Just keep up at what your doing, YOU CAN DO IT DIA! I KNOW YOU CAN! I look up to you soooooo much at what you have accomplished. Your amazing.

I'm so glad you put that email address from the WW website about exercise. When I get some more free time I'm going to look at it more closely. I think it can help me out on getting some other exercise in. Although I still haven't started doing the dance mate. My DH still hasn't had time to look at it to get it fixed.

Keep up the good work!
SMED

Dia Minha · #9 08-16-2007, 10:51 PM

Yeah Smed. I am so excited for you. You are awesome.

I know the plan works. I'm planning on getting back to meetings on the 29th or 30th. Meetings are Wenesday mornings or Thursday nights so either way I need a babysitter. That makes it a little harder. I'm hoping that by sitting in a room with a bunch of other people for 45 minutes that are all working toward the same goals as me will help get me back on track.

Thanks for the confidence.

Dia

**5ft Diva** · #10 08-16-2007, 11:51 PM

Way to go, smed! Keep it up. You're an inspiration to all of us who want to be more healthy!

Mamallama · #11 08-17-2007, 09:01 AM

Dear Dia,
I read your posts last night before bed, and woke up with these thoughts in my mind.

Your heart, body and soul have just barely been through a TREMENDOUS shock! I feel that you are being way to hard on yourself, and that you need to give yourself much more TIME to heal.

While I am no professional in any area here, my thoughts and feelings are to PUT THAT SCALE AWAY. HIDE IT!!!

Congratulations on your exercizing!! I think that is a FABULOUS idea you are focusing on. Doing things like this is so good for your body and soul! You should be proud of yourself for starting this.

Baby steps are a great idea. And I think baby steps such as the exercizing, where you think about focusing on something that you can DO for yourself instead of focusing on ways of limiting yourself (like limiting your food) are the best ways to help yourself.

Another babystep you might think about trying is, tell yourself that it is okay to eat whatever you want---but the babystep of DOING is that you are going to add DRINKING a lot more water throughout your day. One thing I do is keep a glass by my kitchen sink and tell myself that EVERY time I walk by the sink, I have to drink a little glass of water. And if I just downed a whole bunch of cookies and feel guilty----I make myself drink a huge glass of water------and throughout the day, everytime I look or pass by that glass by the sink, I make myself pick it up, fill with water and drink.
Increasing your water intake alone is very good for you even if your eating habits haven't changed. And over time, you may even find that with your stomach a little more full of water, you may naturally eat a little less without even realizing it-----but that's not the FOCUS right now. The focus is on the "I'm going to drink more water and that is it."

Another baby stop to consider is to find a way to get out of the house, alone, everyday. This is much easier said than done!!
ELDER, ELDER WHERE ARE YOU??? PLEASE tune in to this. Your dear Dia needs this right now. If you dear Elder could please take an hour every evening, and stay home with the children for the next few weeks, and let your dear Dia escape from the house for a little while, it would do her wonders. Please, please, please figure a way to do this. Maybe after the children are in bed, Elder, you stay home with them, while Dia goes out for a drive----go buy yourself a milkshake Dia and relax and read a book---walk around Walmart and read in the book isle---whatever you want to do. KNOWING that you are going to have a little time to get out of the house at the end of the day can do wonders for your spirit.

Anyway Dia, the bottom line to this whole note, is realize that a hole in your heart of this magnitude is going to take a lot of time to heal, so don't be so hard on yourself.
You are doing a great jobin functioning and taking care of your family while going through this difficult time---don't beat yourself up over what you are eating or not eating. Focus on what a great job you are doing to get up out of bed everyday. Your children look happy and well from my perspective, ..... you must be doing lots of things right. Give yourself a big pat on the back. You will make it through this all.....and when the time is right, you will be able to get back on track with WW and other things that you want to do. For now...in my opinion, for whatever it is worth

....put that scale away!!

Love,
Mamallama

sunrisegirl · #12 08-17-2007, 01:40 PM

Congratulations SMED! That is so cool on reaching your goals! Dia I know you can do it! You are such a good example to me in many ways and I know that you can get through this. We all have tough times but dwell on the good instead of the bad and things will change for the better. I agree with mamallama- you need to hide that scale!

Dia Minha · #13 08-17-2007, 02:20 PM

Thanks Mama. Your words have been very uplifiting and inspiring. It scares me to death, but I've put the scale away. I'll talk with Fubeca and see what we can do about getting me out of the house. He is always willing to let me go, I just have a hard time going.

Thanks Sunrise.

Dia

**5ft Diva** · #14 08-18-2007, 12:24 AM

Okay, Dia. Here's what we're going to do. It's called an intervention. You tell me what time you and Elder have decided is a good time to go and I'm going to come get you a couple of times next week; there are plenty of things I can do at Wal-Mart and it's fun to make fun of the wierd people there w/ someone by my side anyway. Sound good? Let me know...I'm serious. This is not an act of good will, this is me being your friend. I know it's hard but don't say no. It'll be fun!

Meticulous madness · #15 08-19-2007, 09:39 AM

I "second" what ML said. Well put! I was thinking the same thing about you Dia, being too hard on yourself - considering the things you've recently been through. I was wondering how I was going to say it all. Then voila - there's ML's post. She is so eloquent, honest and helpful!

I want IN on this intervention thing. I can watch the kids on Thursday evenings for you, while you do your meetings. Me and the girls can come there, if you'd like. That way your older kids can just do their thing, and I can just be there as a warm body. The younger kids can play with mine. Would this be helpful? And remember what 5D said, it's not a charity thing, it's a friend thing and I would really LOVE to do it.

Let me know what you think. Love you.

Dia Minha · #16 08-20-2007, 06:22 PM

Thanks so much for the offers. I'm still thinking ladies. However, this is what I have so far. By way of getting out of the house. Fubeca is going on a business trip this week. It sounds funny to call it that, because he is just going to Park City. Usually I would get to go with him, but with school starting and such we weren't able to make that happen. Anyway, it makes it a little more difficult to get out this week. However, my mom is coming up tomorrow to sit the kids and I'll get to go up and have dinner with Fubeca and all his coworkers and costumers. In a way I'm a little anxious. I really don't have anything that fits well that I feel comfortable going to a dinner party in. Thank goodness it is casual. So I can get away with a pair of jeans and a blouse. I have one pair of jeans that kind of still fit, no one will be able to tell they don't anyway. I figured I would just wear my fluffly white blouse, because it tends to hide a lot, while still giving me some what of a womanly shape. Well that was completely off subject.

Ok, so, Diva, any offers to go to Wal-mart for an intervention, won't really work this week. I might have to take you up on it later though, because I don't like getting out of the house without Fubeca, because I don't like going out by myself. I like being by myself at my house. That doesn't happen a lot when you have a husband and five kids. M&M, I really appreciate your offer to watch the kids on Thursday. It seems kind of silly though, because Fubeca's Bishopric stuff overlaps my WW meeings only by about 15 mins. So it doesn't seem worth having someone come over for that long or to gather up the kids and take them somewhere else for just that long. Some nights they don't overlap at all. So, Fubeca and I are trying to work something out there.

Thanks for the offers ladies, and I'll let you know when and if you are needed.

Dia

Mamallama · #17 08-20-2007, 11:24 PM

Dia, that's great that you'll be able to meet your dh in Park City tomorrow. I hope you have a wonderful time!

Dia Minha · #18 08-21-2007, 09:40 AM

Thanks Mama. I'm going to enjoy it. I'll take opportunities like this when they come. Fubeca and I just don't get out as much as we should. My mom is coming just after lunch, so that means I'll get to go up and do some shopping, before I meet him for dinner. Then depending on how I am feeling we are going to try and squeeze in a movie. I'll have to drive home by myself so I can't get to tired.

Dia

Erudite · #19 08-21-2007, 09:57 AM

Oh my goodness...am I ever missing you guys!! You are all so wonderful to each other.

Dia...be sure to take people up on their offers to help you! If you're like me (and I think you are) you don't want to leave the house not because you don't like alone time, but because leaving the house means imposing on someone. I have the WORST time doing that, so I basically don't leave the house until my DH kicks me out because I'm going stir-crazy. Having people help isn't an imposition. It blesses them as much as you. They wouldn't be offering if they didn't mean it. I like everyone else, just want to see that you can go through your healing process...sorry if I've been bossy.

Mamallama · #20 08-21-2007, 10:20 AM

Dia,
After my post here a couple of days ago, I've been worried about my writing 'bossy' about your dh watching the kids so you could get out.....I know he's a great husband and father and doesn't neglect you and is aware of your needs.....I hope you understood the 'spirit' of what I was trying to say.....and that you or your dh didn't take offense as to what I said in the post.
Please forgive me if it came across in a negative way. It was not my intention to be bossy. I hope you understand what I'm meaning.

Enjoy the day today in Park City!! Have lots of fun!!! I'll be thinking of you